16 11 / 2012
It’s been too long since I’ve been able to post an update about my experience with wedding planning! Although I’ve been absent on Tumblr lately, I’ve been very active on my Pinterest wedding board. If you’d like to check on some great tips and wedding inspiration, check out my board here.
Things have been pretty smooth on the wedding front lately. We’ve officially signed contracts with our biggest vendors, the caterer and the D.J. Also, we took our engagement pictures, ordered some prints, had two engagement parties and picked out our wedding bands! I’ll be posting pictures of the engagement shoot and parties A.S.A.P. We’ve been making lots of good progress.
The next big priority on our agenda is taking time out for ourselves in a variety of ways. Life gets so hectic and we try to please so many different people that it’s all too easy to put each other on the back burner. My fiance and I do it all the time - because of a lack of free time, we’ll do group dates with friends instead of having alone time together. It’s just easier to kill two birds with one stone.
But it shouldn’t be like that. We should be making a conscious effort to set aside time to just be. Be still. Be loving. Be together. And so that’s what we’re planning to do.
Last week, Adrian (my fiance) and I finally made plans for a real date night - the classic dinner and a movie. In spite of numerous people, including my mom, inviting us to do other things on the same night, we were able to detach ourselves away from all of life’s responsibilities and go out together. It was hard to tell people “no” but it’s something we need to work on for our own well-being. So we went out to dinner, enjoyed whatever we wanted off the menu (I even had a glass of red!) and then we headed over to the movie theater. We had some time to kill so we drove through our soon-to-be apartment complex and dreamed of how our lives will be come July 2013 when we move in together.
After long days at work and indulging in a big dinner, we were both so tired. Not wanting to let him down, I jokingly suggested that we skip the movie and go back to my place to take a nap. Much to my relief, he agreed to skip the movie and relax at home with me.
It wasn’t what we planned on, but it was an excellent night. We enjoyed each other’s company, we did whatever we wanted to do and we had quality time alone together. If only we had the time and money for more nights like that!
Creating special moments and enjoying this time of just being engaged is crucial to a healthy premarital experience. Take each other out on a date, just the two of you, and vow not to talk a single thing about the wedding. Make it a stress-free night to catch up, dream and spend time together. It will make the stressful processing of wedding planning so much better if you draw close to your fiance instead of pushing him/her away - something easily done in my opinion. Now is the time to be each other’s team mate, each other’s advocate and, most of all, each other’s friend. It seems to me like those are the makings of a great marriage.
But what do I know? I’ve never been married before ;)